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Proverbs: Hope for New Dads, Day 14

3/5/2020

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Proverbs: Hope for New Dads wisdom parenting moms devotional

Day 14: Anger

Proverbs 16:32 
Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, 
and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.
Children often breathe their parents’ second-hand anger. At my son’s back-to-school night, I noticed one student’s artwork with the entire page scribbled in red crayon. 

The teacher asked, “What’s that a picture of?” 
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The little boy answered, “It’s my daddy. He’s really, really mad.”
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Dads, your children are fools who will often offend you (Prov. 22:15), yet you must learn to control your anger or you will destroy your home and your relationship with your children (25:28). Anger wrongly frames discipline as a problem between parent and child, thus teaching them to fear man instead of the Lord (29:25). Instead of exposing your children’s sin, it makes them emotional weathermen: “What kind of mood is daddy in right now? How much can I get away with?” Your children learn to appease you because they long for a stable environment, yet anger will destroy your family from within. So consider the wisdom of Proverbs: “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense” (19:11). 

One night, two of my boys were horsing around, spoon-fighting at dinner (for the uninitiated, that’s sword-fighting with spoons), when they both fell off their chairs. It’s ridiculous the number of times in our home that little boys have fallen off their chairs in the middle of dinner. This particular meal took an hour longer than necessary as I repeatedly reprimanded them to finish eating. I was about to yell in frustration, but I had to check myself. My desires had morphed into demands. They had gone from “I want” to “I must have” until those demands ruled my heart. I began to view my desire for respectful children and for peace and quiet as something I deserved—rewards for a life well-lived: “I work so hard to take care of these kids. I put food on their plates. I’m not asking for much. I deserve their respect. I demand their respect.” Yet the moment my desires drifted into demands, they became sinful heart idolatry. Idols are not simply statues of wood and stone, but anything I depend on apart from God for happiness or security. An idol is whatever I love and pursue more than God.

So dads, what is most important to you? Which desire rules your heart? Will you sin in order to get it or sin if it’s withheld? If so, you have an idol. Pay attention and your anger will expose your heart. I encourage you to journal any occasion you get angry this week:
  1. Write down what happened. Summarize the situation. 
  2. Admit you were angry—that you lost control: “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls” (Prov. 25:28). 
  3. Then ask yourself: “What did I say, do, and feel in that situation?” Record your words, behavior, and emotions (especially when they were sinful). 
  4. Most importantly, examine the source of your anger: “What were my thoughts and desires at the time? What was I wanting or defending that led to my anger?”
  5. Then repent not just for sinful anger, but also for sinful heart desires (28:13) since you must pluck out the weed by its root. Don’t waste your anger. Instead, pay close attention and root out the idols of your heart. 

Anger contaminates your deepest roots, yet thankfully the gospel goes deeper. So let the Lord transform your sinful anger as you apply the Proverbs: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (15:1) and “a hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention” (v. 18). Also “if your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink” (25:21; see 24:17-18) and “whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city” (16:32). Seek to emulate the patient lovingkindness which the Lord has shown to you.

Dads, just as you would never smoke celebratory cigars over your baby’s crib, so also snuff out your anger (Ps. 37:8a; Col. 3:8). Focus on character qualities and godly actions to put on in place of anger: self-control (Prov. 16:32; 25:28; 29:11; Gal. 5:23), edifying speech (Prov. 10:11, 13, 19-21, 31-32; 12:18, 25; 15:1; Eph. 4:25-32), and biblical peacemaking (Matt. 5:9; Rom. 12:18; 14:19). Put on gentleness, patience, and humility (Jas. 1:19): “What new thoughts should I be thinking? What is the right goal for right now? How can I be patient and consider the interests of others? How can I serve God and the people around me? Is there something productive I can do about this problem?” Let Scripture you have memorized transform your thoughts. Keep fighting the battle against anger until you can claim the victory.

Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, Convict me of any anger in my own heart. Show me how to reject this deadly sin and put on the character of Christ. Teach me to speak with gentle and edifying words even when I feel frustrated by my circumstances. Then help me to model Christ’s patient lovingkindness toward my children instead of provoking them to anger. In your Son’s name, Amen.

​LifeWork: Write down one way you will apply today’s Proverb.

Tom Sugimura

Tom Sugimura

Tom is a third-generation Asian American who left his engineering career when God called him into local church ministry. Tom helped replant a historic church and is now the lead pastor of New Life Church in Woodland Hills, CA. This revitalization effort resulted in a healthy church being planted and also created a blueprint for other churches across the nation to do the same. New Life Church has since begun a Greenhouse Program to train young men in pastoral ministry and church planting.  
Tom is also a visiting professor with The Master’s University, The Master’s Academy International, and Overseas Instruction in Counseling. He received a doctorate in biblical counseling from Southern Seminary and has a heart to train pastors and counselors internationally. Tom has been married fourteen wonderful years and he and his wife are raising four rambunctious children. So far, the joys of parenting have far outweighed the challenges.
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Gratitude for Truth.Love.Parent. I have been greatly encouraged by the ministry of Truth.Love.Parent as both a pastor and a father. The teaching is consistently biblical, brief enough for busy parents, and communicated in ways that stick. My wife and I have been challenged with many points for discussion as we listen to the podcast together. As a pastor, Truth.Love.Parent is my first recommendation to the families in our church.

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