It poisons conversations. It steals into nearly every Facebook debate. It train-wrecks biblical one-anothering. And it’s present in 100% of broken relationships.
There isn’t an unbruised holiday, a unscarred hour, or an unsoiled event. Even in the midst of the most loving conversations, lies, silent treatment, screams, propaganda, cutting words, manipulation, and vitriol have appeared from thin air as suddenly and explosively as a Las Vegas magician.
We’re all guilty.
But wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could eradicate the needless communication problems listed above in order to focus on the really important things? Instead of unraveling a knot of lies, we could seek forgiveness and restoration. Instead of disarming an exploding temper, we focus on points of agreement. Instead of throwing verbal hand grenades designed to decimate our opponents, we could reason our ways toward a solution.
To this end, I’d like to share this simple tool, and I pray it will be beneficial for your family both in both learning to communicate correctly and being reminded to communicate correctly.
I call it the “Communication House.”
It works like this:
So, what’s all this House stuff?
The Communication House is built like this:
You see, we leave The House every time we lie, every time we’re unloving, and every time we have any goal other than God’s glory. Those conversations never work. They always end in relational carnage.
And I think you’re observant enough to see the real beauty of The Communication House. I suggested earlier that communicating in The House allows your family to focus on the more important issues instead of being distracted by the sins of the mouth. But if we really communicate in God’s way for God’s reasons . . . there won’t be any “other issues”!
Staying in The House is the greatest win-win for every relationship because it affects every facet of life and applies in every situation!
I’ve included an image below that visually represents these truths. I encourage you to print it out, maybe even frame it, and post it in a central location in your home (or multiple if necessary) in order to remind your family to keep their communication in The House.”
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